Dear Sista, love yourself

I was having a conversation with my husband about stretch marks and how people shame others for having them. He absolutely couldn’t grasp that notion. He really thought majority of people accept them and that’s that. And y’all know I was just like, not everyone is like you babe. So of course I pop into my twitter account and lo and behold someone had posted a pic with a girl with minor stretch marks and the first guy who commented on it said, “those are discussing and need to be removed “.  Excuse me? What? Did this man really think you can just snap your fingers and voila, they’re gone? And y’all can already guess what I did next, called my man up and said see, this is what I’m talking about.

The point I’m trying to make is that, we as females are shamed for things like stretch marks and fail to love ourselves completely because of it. I remember with my first pregnancy I had a hard time accepting and embracing them. Yeh yeh I knew I was growing a child and it was a beautiful thing, buttttt my body was shifting. I gained 70 pounds. 😳😳 I know, crazy, but it is what it is. So here I am, so much weight on me and stretch marks like crazy. I couldn’t even look in the mirror. It did not matter that my husband called me beautiful because I simply just felt ugly. It wasn’t until it finally hit me that wow, there’s a life growing inside of me. This is a dream come true. So many people wish they could have kids and they would willingly take everything from being nauseous all day to having a million stretch marks if the final gift was a baby. And sometimes it’s not even because you are pregnant.

Stretch marks are a part of life. Some people get them and others do not. I happen to be one of those who got them, and that is fine. They’re so many reasons why people get stretch marks and they’re not something to be ashamed of.

So, my dear sistas… and brothers, because yes guys can get them too, don’t feel ugly or inadequate because you have stretch marks. Embrace them. They are beautiful.

Here is to being 9 months and feeling beautiful, stretch marks and all.

Be blessed 🙂



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